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Say what?! Dad says wife should pay for baby formula out of her money if she stops breastfeeding

Oh no, he didn't ...

By Rebel Wylie
A new father has taken to an online forum to ask if he's reasonable in thinking that since his wife wants to quit breastfeeding that it's only fair that the cost of formula comes out of her share of the family budget and, ooh boy …
The budget-conscious daddy posed his question on a Removeddit thread which asks, simply 'AmItheA**hole'.
"She has been breastfeeding for six months since the baby was born and now wants to switch to formula," he wrote.
"She makes plenty of milk and everything she just says she 'feels done.'"
"I think if she wants to stop for basically no reason then the money for formula should come out of her personal spending money because she is the one making that decision."
"She says I'm an a---ole and it should come from the family/grocery budget (which is already tight) even though I don't have a say."
Should the burden of formula cost fall on one parent in particular? Image: Getty.
Responders came in hard and fast, pointing out the flaws in Captain Fiscal's thinking by stating some pretty obvious truths.
"I'm sorry is this not YOUR child as well that she is feeding?" asks one indignant responder.
"Breastfeeding is extremely hard work. It can be both mentally and physically exhausting," chimed in another. "Plus, it's your child too! It's harder to split the work when one breastfeeds but you absolutely should be splitting everything regarding your children as parents together, including the cost of food."
One commenter, clearly triggered, wrote: "As a lactating woman, I feel especially qualified to tell you to go f* yourself. Breastfeeding has been harder than pregnancy and childbirth combined … You suck."
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Others went even further, suggesting that the burden of payment should fall squarely on daddio's own shoulders.
"If anything it should come exclusively from your budget for the next six months and then you can switch to 50/50, since she was the one saving your family the cost of formula by breastfeeding for half a year," suggested one lateral thinker.
Another added, "I'm guessing formula wouldn't seem an unreasonable expense if she suggested you just take your turn."
Here's a hot tip: If you have to ask your question on a thread called "AmItheA--hole", then you probably are.