The guy I met was very honest with me from the start about having a girlfriend and a little girl and tells me he has no feelings for his girlfriend any more and doesn’t care for her at all. He feels he loves me more but he’s frightened he’ll lose his little girl if he’s caught having an affair with me.
I know we shouldn’t be doing what we’re doing but I feel the same way about him as he feels about me. I never felt this way about my husband and I really feel that he’s the one for me.
The sex we have is amazing but it’s very hard to have a passion like this and then for him to go back to his girlfriend. He’s all I can think about and I’ve realised what life can be like if you are with the right person.
We’ve tried to stay away from each other so he can try to sort himself out but that only lasts a day or two before he calls me constantly on the phone telling me he misses me and loves me more than anything and we’re forced to see each other and so it all starts up again. And I do feel guilty about us cheating on his girlfriend and his baby girl but I love him and I don’t know what to do.
No matter how passionate you feel about each other, his home life and responsibilities change this from being a thrilling new relationship into a potentially sad situation for everyone involved.
You can’t say that you cannot stay apart. You are both adults and while there’s something very dramatic about the way you describe being unable to stay away from each other, if you want to salvage any dignity about your relationship you have to be far more honest. Do you expect him to leave his girlfriend? Is that his intention and when does he plan to do it?
It won’t be easy but if this is the way forward you both need to start acting like mature adults, put the grand passion on hold for a while and sort out the practicalities and legalities, including access to and the support of his baby.
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