My husband was starting a job in Taiwan on August 2nd; we were all very excited for him and the prospect of starting a new life overseas.
I wasn't able to come with him straight away because our first child was due to be born on August 13th. He went on alone with plans for us to join him after the birth.
After the baby was born, we didn't get to Taiwan until November 11th, a whole three months later.
For the first few weeks everything was going great, then, about three weeks after we'd moved in together, my husband got drunk and gave me his phone to make a call, and it opened on to an email account I've never seen before.
From that email, I made the gut-wrenching discovery that he had a fake Facebook, Tinder, and OkCupid account.
I hacked into his Facebook account and from there, got into his tinder account. He had over 30 messages between him and different women in Taiwan talking about meeting up etc.
I took a few screenshots of the conversations and then used them to confront my husband.
He told me he was sorry and that it was a stupid game he and his friends played, who could talk to the most girls and get the most information from them, but he never did anything with any of the women.
So, I let it go.
A few days later I was looking up local bars online to investigating what the nightlife was like in our new neighbourhood. I was shocked to find pictures of my husband at almost every bar, always with the same girl or her and her friends.
I confronted him yet again, and he said he didn't do anything with them and didn't the only reason he didn't tell me was because he knew I would get jealous.
I had that feeling that something wasn't right, so I kept begging him to tell me if he had cheated on me. He said nothing.
I couldn't let it go, so I signed back into his Tinder account and saw a new message from a woman asking what she had done for him to hurt her and ignore her like this.
At first, I pretend to be him and, then came clean and told her who I was.
She admitted she'd slept with my husband twice and revealed they hadn't used protection. One of those times was while I was giving birth.
She then sends me all the messages between them and tells me the last time she spoke to him was November 20th (AFTER I'd move to Taiwan).
The more recent messages said how much my husband missed this woman's body, asking her for pictures and telling her how much he wanted to see her again. I think the only reason he didn't meet up with this woman because I'd found his secret tinder account.
The woman agreed to come and help me confront him so he couldn't lie anymore, but we never got the chance.
He'd seen our exchange of messages and came home that evening with a smirk on his face and said "I cheated," like he's just won a prize.
After he came clean, I didn't eat or drink for a week.
I was dying inside. I've never felt so disrespected or betrayed. I cried daily and still have nightmares.
I was so in love with him, and I didn't see this coming.
He said he was sorry and would never do it again and every day he just acted like nothing happened, expecting me to act normal too.
I wanted it to work, and I really wanted my son to have both his parents together, but I knew I couldn't stay if he thought this was an okay thing to do.
I know now that I could never trust him again.
Now I'm in the process of getting plane tickets home through his company.
I want to remove my son and I from this nightmare and I'm lucky to have family that can help me out until I get on my feet again.
My son is the most important thing to me and I know we'll be okay.
**This story was originally published on Reddit and has had some edits made for readability.