- You're given a set amount of money each week but it's shrinking over time and your requests for an increase fall on deaf ears.
- You're expected to produce receipts for any purchases, even small amounts.
- You're clueless about your financial state because you've been led to believe that the best way to keep your money on track is for your partner to control it.
- You can't remember the last time you saw a bill or bank statement. These are often sent electronically so it's important to make sure you have access to these emails.
- You don't play a part in making the financial decisions that affect your household.
Help is at hand
Start with these steps
- Don't beat yourself up. We can find ourselves in these situations because we love and trust a person who lets us down. "The tricky thing about financial abuse is that it can happen to anyone. It does not discriminate; it can affect individuals from all backgrounds, not matter how old, how educated, how much they earn, their financial experience or their cultural background," says Kylie.
- Start learning. Read CBA's Addressing Financial Abuse guide, an informative guide for anyone dealing with a financial abuse situation.
- Then look at the big picture. On average, women live longer than men but retire with less. When you're ready to get started on your money journey, check out The Financial Wellbeing Guide for Women, a helpful guide that covers all the key milestones and challenges that women face when it comes to their finances.
- Start the conversation. Plan what you're going to say and raise your concerns with your partner. If you are experiencing family or domestic violence and you decide that it's not safe to bring up money issues, ask for support from a family violence service, such as 1800 RESPECT.