Sex & Relationships

Gwyneth explains what conscious uncoupling means

Gwyneth Paltrow and Christ Martin

Gwyneth Paltrow and Christ Martin. Photos: WireImage / Goop.com

Gwyneth Paltrow has taken to her blog again to explain the pop-psychology tag she used to announce her separation from Chris Martin.

In a post titled “Conscious uncoupling” on the Goop lifestyle website, Paltrow yesterday wrote “we have come to the conclusion that while we love each other very much we will remain separate.”

The site was offline for hours after crashing from overwhelming traffic volumes, but today the Oscar-winning actress has added an explanation of the term from Dr Habib Sadeghi and Dr Sherry Sami, Los Angeles-based physicians who specialise in integrative health.

“Conscious uncoupling”, they say, “is the ability to understand that every irritation and argument was a signal to look inside ourselves and identify a negative internal object that needed healing.”

“If we can recognize that our partners in our intimate relationships are our teachers, helping us evolve our internal, spiritual support structure, we can avoid the drama of divorce and experience what we call a conscious uncoupling.”

“By choosing to handle your uncoupling in a conscious way, regardless of what’s happening with your spouse, you’ll see that although it looks like everything is coming apart; it’s actually all coming back together.”

The phrase is also used by a New Age psychotherapist based in Los Angeles, Katherine Woodward Thomas. Her website offers courses in “Conscious Uncoupling” that promise to “release the trauma of a break-up, reclaim your power and reinvent your life”. The course can be completed online and in just five weeks.

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